I'm 28 and recently got engaged. I was in a relationship with a girl, but our families were unaware about it. They would not accept her because of caste differences
Dear Diana
Dear Diana,
I'm 28 and recently got engaged. I was in a relationship with a girl, but our families were unaware about it. They would not accept her because of caste differences. We didn't know what to do so we ended up separating as my family was keen that I get engaged. It has been three months, but I can't get my ex-girlfriend out of my head. I tried to get in touch with her, but she refused to acknowledge me. What should I do?
— Parthav
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Dear Parthav,
It was your decision to move on and get engaged, so now why are you still thinking about her? What she has done is the right thing. She considers you as a closed chapter of her life and does not want to remain in contact with you. It is better that you move on. Remember you are engaged and there is another woman in your life. There is no point in pining for your ex now as when there was time you could not convince your family to accept her.
Dear Diana,
I fancy two girls and I like them a lot. My pals tell me I will have to choose one as I can't be with two women at the same time. I just can't decide who is right for me. Also, they don't know that there are two women in my life as I have played safe for almost a year. How do I choose? I also dread the day when the two find out about each other.
— Neervan
Dear Neervan,
First be sure whether you like them or are simply attracted to them. Also, do wonder what will happen if the girls find out about each other? For over a year, you have not been able to decide who to be with. So get to know them before living in your dream world spinning fantasies about the two. Take a reality check and get to know the girls and then pick one.