Dear Diana,
I had an arranged marriage five months ago. My wife is caring and loving, but when it comes to matters of the bedroom she is just not interested in sex. She does not like it and complains of pain. She lets go only when she feels that I appear dejected. How do I make her understand and enjoy our married life?
— Jayesh


Illustration/Amit Bandre 

Dear Jayesh,
As yours is an arranged marriage, she's still not comfortable with you in bed. You'll did not fall in love and then decide to get married, so you are discovering each other post marriage. Give your wife time to bond with you. Be sensitive towards her feelings and don't force her into anything as she is likely to be put off. It might take her a while to enjoy it. She might be expecting a lot of care and understanding. So you will have to be patient and not hurt her as that might create more problems.