My guy does not love me anymore

My guy was such a super person. I was head over heels in love with him. We had a wonderful relationship and talked about having a future together

My guy does not love me anymore

Dear Diana,
My guy was such a super person. I was head over heels in love with him. We had a wonderful relationship and talked about having a future together. After going around for three years, last month, he told me that he was bored and wanted to call it quits. He said the spark had gone out of our relationship. I know I have a lot to learn about love and sex but I was so sure that I was the woman for him and that we would get married someday. How do I accept that he doesn't love me anymore? That he is not part of my life?u00a0u00a0
- Subur

Illustration/Satish Acharya

Dear Subur,
I can well understand how miserable you feel.u00a0 There is hurt, despair as well as anger at being dumped. You will need time to recover -- till your tears dry up. If you are close to a pal or a family member, pour your heart out to them. There is no point in brooding over what has happened as this will only make your path to recovery more difficult. Remember this guy did not deserve your love, you are better off without him. Do not have self-pity. Trust me you will meet lots of lovely guys who will mean a great deal to you. Also, try to do a lot of stuff for your own self. Things you always wanted to do but never have time for. It will keep yourself occupied and keep any other thoughts at bay.

He is my friend, not lover

Dear Diana,
I have a male friend who I am very close to. He has been my childhood pal. Just because now we are in our early 20s, everyone assumes that we are a couple. But we are simply friends and have never crossed the line. How do I explain this to people?
- VK

Dear VK,
You are in a platonic relationship which many find odd. But as long as your family is okay and know the truth why are you worried about the rest? It is your life and it is your decision who to be friends with. There is no need to explain in detail to anyone. Just say he's my childhood buddy.

I fear that he will forget me

Dear Diana,
My guy is leaving for a job in Qatar. Our families insisted on an engagement before he left. They wanted a commitment from both sides as he will be back only after two years. I was not too keen on it. I have this nagging feeling that he will forget me. Why do I have such fears?
- SK

Dear SK,
Your fears are not unfounded. Such feelings are but natural. He is going to a distant country and going to meet lots of new people. But try not to be suspicious. He has plenty on his head. It is not just a new job but also a new place. What makes you think he will forget you? Doesn't he love you? And what about you.... you might forget him too. Don't think too hard about all this. Before he leaves, make the most of it.