I am 19 and am in a real mess in my life. I have been seeing this girl for the past one year, but we broke up four months back.
Dear Diana,
I am 19 and am in au00a0 real mess in my life. I have been seeing this girl for the past one year, but we broke up four months back. Three weeks later she said what we have is not worth losing and so we patched up again. Now a few days back, she said she wants to enjoy her college life and so broke up with me again.
She is not ready to listen to me, she even picks faults on the smallest things I do. I helped her when she needed me the most but now when I need her, she doesn't even talk to me. I cry everyday for her, but she doesn't even think of me.
When she told me to stop being with friends, I stopped for her happiness, but now when I said the same thing, she broke up with me. I don't know what I should dou00a0-- wait for her to come back once again? I don't want to leave her because I love her, but I don't know if she loves me or not. My mother also knows about the relationship and she keeps asking me about her. I have not told her anything. What should I do?
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Name withheld
Dear Friend,
When you expect too much, you set yourself up for disappointment. Do a realistic appraisal of this relationship. She's doing everything she has asked you to avoid doing. Doesn't that tell you anything about her selfishness? Besides, she hasn't even bothered calling you or keeping in touch. Why give someone that callous so much importance?
Waiting for her to come back to you is degrading, to say the least. Make a dignified exit and call it quits. She's not worth the heartache. Would you continue wanting to be with someone who you don't know loves you back?
Feel guilty about having a tiny penis
Dear Diana,
I am 22. My penis is very tinyu00a0-- only 10 cms when excited. I feel very guilty because of its size and diameter. Please give me a solution to improve its size and overcome this guilt.
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
I think you are confusing being guilty with being embarassed. Though I think you are making too much of it. I think 10 cms is not a problem of tininess. From what I understand, you're well with the normal size of an average Indian male and should not have nay hangups about your size.
Give my chat friend a chance?
Dear Diana,
I am 24. My parents are searching for a groom for me. I know this boy for the past six years. We were friends and would chat online for hours, though we did not meet often. His height and his intelligence attracted me. For the past two years, he has been studying in the US.
He told me while chatting that he has started to like me. I don't know whether he is kidding or serious. How can I find out? He is ready to come to India, but I am very confused. Should I give him a chance, though it will take him another year to settle down? What should I tell my parents?
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
There's nothing to be confused about, really.u00a0 If you are apprehensive about meeting him alone, tag a friend along. The only way to find out if he is interested in you is to give him a chance. Get to know each other over a few meetings and decide if you want to be together.
If it's purely to get out of an arranged marriage, that you're looking for a boyfriend, I suggest you get your priorities sorted out. If you don't want to get married now, tell your parents that. And ask this guy if a future commitment can be expected from him at all. if not, don't pursue this relationship further than you need to.