I have just recently found myself attracted to a colleague I have worked with for around two years. A few weeks after realising this, we were told he has been given a really short amount of notice to leave
Dear Diana,
I have just recently found myself attracted to a colleague I have worked with for around two years. A few weeks after realising this, we were told he has been given a really short amount of notice to leave. I have battled with the idea of telling him but lose my nerve when the opportunity arises.
Basically, I now have five days to either do something or just leave it. What should I should do/say? I must point out I am extremely shy and anytime I have wanted to speak to someone I have feelings for I can never find the right words and they end up drifting away or being snapped up by someone else.
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Name withheld
Dear Friend,
Just tell him you're sorry to hear he's leaving and ask him if he'd like to go out for a farewell drink. This way you won't be embarassed if he says "No", because it's not as though you're asking him out on a date. You're just being a friendly colleague saying "Goodbye". If he does go out with you for a drink, and providing you've had a nice time, tell him you've had fun and suggest the two of you could go out again.
I wanna have a baby... but I'm only 16!
Dear Diana,
I'm only 16 but sometimes I get like really hormonal and obsessive about having a baby. Not all the time, but when I do, it'su00a0 unbearable. It's really scary and upsetting. Why do I feel like this? How can I get over it?
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
It's just the hormones. A phase... so the good thing is, it will pass. Confide in a friend or elder to be able to vent those feelings. You can put those maternal instincts to good use by offering to babysit people's kids. But whatever you do, don't think of giving birth to a baby at this age!
We're 14. He wants to have sex. Am not ready
Dear Diana,
I've been with my boyfriend for a while now and recently he's been wanting more from me. I'm only 14 and he's asked me for sex. He is the same age too. I like him but I'm scared he's using me for sex or just to look good. I'm really worried. What if he ends up hurting me?
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
First of all, you're too young to be thinking about sexu00a0-- let alone to be having it. Here's some advice for this relationship and for any other relationship you'll have in your lifetimeu00a0-- if you're not ready for sex or you simply don't want to, don't. Let your boyfriend know.
If he can't respect that, he can leave the same way he came in. You're number one concern should be to protect yourself. So, if you truly think that your boyfriend might be using you for sex then you need to handle the situation (break up with him, maybe?). Always trust your instincts. It will let you know when the relationship is wrong and more importantly, when the relationship is right.