When you know the other person doesn't love you anymore, why do you stay in that relationship? I think once the love is gone, it's gone
Dear Diana,
When you know the other person doesn't love you anymore, why do you stay in that relationship? I think once the love is gone, it's gone. They might still have feelings for you based on all the shared history, but I really think the love is gone for good. I wonder if my marriage is something to stay in or go.
After 27 years, we lived through lots of tragedies and also loving times together. But now there is no sex, no intimacy, just friendship. Is this okay at 50, not to have sex and affection anymore? What do you think?
Name withheld
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Dear Friend,
When you've been with someone as long as you have been with your wife, you begin to take several things for granted about yourself and your significant other. If you do feel the spark has gone out of your marriage, it's up to you to rectify that. Should you choose not to, that's something you will just have to live with. You have to part ways if you think that it would be the best thing for you. But you have to be convinced that is what you want. I don't think that when you spend 27 years with someone, you give up without a fight. You try to make it work. Give yourself a deadline. If the matter isn't sorted out by then, do what you have to.
Wanna ask this guy out...
Dear Diana,
I just broke up with my boyfriend and there's this guy I really like. I'm too afraid to ask him out as I don't know if he likes me. How should I ask him out?
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
Well, this had better not be a rebound affair. If it is, it just wouldn't be fair to this guy. That said, ask common friends to set you up on a date. What happens there, is up to you.
He says it's just meaningless sex!
Dear Diana,
I am in a long-distance relationship. My boyfriend says it is okay for him to have sex with call girls since it's just 'meaningless sex'. I begged him not to choose a call girl over me and my love. He refused. I feel really disgusted and dirty for falling for him and even going to the extent of begging him to choose me over call girls. I really sound pathetic. Do I have low self-esteem?
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
Yes, you do. To pine after and long for a guy who unabashedly clamours after easy lays, is a classic trait of low self-esteem. If he's so persistent about having meaningless sex, let him. Just tell him that if he does, he loses you. If he still persists, it will tell you what a class-A jerk he is. It does sound pathetic that you want him so badly. Woman up, girl! Dump him pronto!