Want to get out of unhappy marriage

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I am a 46-year old woman and have been married for 12 years. This has not been a happy marriage since the beginning. My husband and I dated for around six months before the wedding, and he has not been in love with me since then. I think he agreed to marry just because he was worried about being alone, and there has always been resentment towards me. We have no children and that has only made it worse because it feels as if I am to blame even though doctors have told us we are both incapable of becoming parents. He is always unhappy, and I have been desperate to get out of this situation for a long time but can't because of fear. I don't know if I can be financially secure, or safe as a woman on my own in the city. My parents died a few years ago and I have no siblings, so my support system is restricted to a few close friends. They will help as much as they can, but they have their own lives and I know they can't do much. How do I get out of this? It feels as if I am constantly running out of time.
It's always wise to weigh your options and look at everything from financial to emotional stability when you want to end any relationship. The longer you wait though, the harder it tends to become. I would suggest reaching out to a counsellor who can point you to women support groups that exist to offer viable advice. It also makes sense to try and speak to your husband about this, because it doesn't seem as if he is happy about this situation either. If the two of you can come to an arrangement that allows you to both get on with your lives while arranging for some financial stability until you land on your feet, that may be a life-changing solution for you both. You won't know until you speak about it.

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