Experts decode how single Indians are scanning life partners in 2023

When Valerie Dsouza 27 began her hunt for a life partner she came across Stevenrsquos profile on a popular dating app To her liking they matched and her next move was a ldquonobrainerrdquo as she describes it She logged in to her LinkedIn and looked him up on the careerfocused social media platform It was Valeriersquos way of ensuring that the guy is not a catfishFor Valerie LinkedIn served a deeper purpose of establishing Stevenrsquos authenticity ldquoPeople on LinkedIn are about advancing their career goals A quick assessment of their LinkedIn profile is enough to gauge the quality of their education and employment It helped me cut out slackers from the dating pool and focus on serious suitorsrdquo added ValerieMillennials and boomers are emerging with a nonconformist approach to identify potential partners They are taking the bar higher with added factors like empathy sexual compatibility and emotional intelligence along with traditional aspects like education upbringing and family background to zero down on the suitor poolHow are single Indians scanning their partners in 2023 To find out Midday Online reached out to relationship experts and matchmakers from global platforms Herersquos what we foundMay I lurk over your LinkedInMany individuals have fallen victim to catfishing and have had negative experiences with people presenting a false version of themselves on dating apps Consequently several single Indians are resorting to LinkedIn as a quick vetting tool to scrutinise potential life partnersPointing out the vices of social platforms Anuradha Gupta the founder of Vows for Eternity a popular matrimonial website shares ldquoSocial media platforms or dating websites have enabled people to present who they are not This has resulted in the emotional and mental drainage of those who invested hours in scanning profiles on online platforms Ultimately people are looking at getting accurate and authentic information given the high stakes when it comes to a serious relationshiprdquoTo dig deeper we spoke to Indiarsquos second most downloaded dating app Aisle with a user base of 15 million people worldwide Able Joseph founder and CEO House of Aisle shares that people are trying to use LinkedIn as a tool to verify potential dates Newer generations are far more careerminded and would like potential partners to match them on that level Thatrsquos where LinkedIn provides detailed professional information about a person and allows people to better understand their suitorrsquos background and credentialsChuck nudes will you exchange blood reports with meWhen Aditi Asthana 26 found out about her chronic kidney disease she was devastated Upon diagnosis she found out that the kidney disorder was passed on to her by her father This revelation not only shook Aditi but her mother too who had to donate her own kidney to save her daughter from a terminal disease Had Aditirsquos mother conducted premarital medical tests before marriage she would be in a better position to predict what the future entails for herIn countries where arranged marriages are still common discussing topics related to physical and sexual health can be challenging for many individuals Nevertheless there is a growing acceptance and comfort level in discussing these subjects shares Shreya Sharma a psychiatrist at the healthcare agency Heal N Feel in MumbaiShe further adds that the younger generation is considering these tests vital not only for the physical wellbeing of the couple but also for longterm biological compatibility Medical tests for Infertility blood compatibility STD and genetically transmitted conditions are aiding people in understanding the genetics of their partners and seeking necessary precautions with the help of premarital counsellorsWill you unpack my mental baggageThe average age at which Indians are settling down in urban cities is gradually increasing with each decade It implies that people have had more life experiences including ones related to love and heartbreak which can leave emotional and mental baggage Although this may be a slow shift many of Shreyarsquos clients are comfortable talking about these experiences with their potential partnersldquoYoung Indians wish to be understood and seen in the relationship and are willing to do the same for their partners Thus more open and courageous conversations are happening between couplesrdquo says Shreya Able believes that as the newer generations move into the dating and marriage bracket the attitude toward mental health is slowly changing for the betterNow highly selfaware and compassionate for most people in their early twenties and late teens relationships are not as confusing and messy as they once wereWhat do you think of separate bedroomsldquoPeople have become more comfortable in seeking personal space in recent times Young Indians are slowly understanding the need and benefits of spending time with themselvesrdquo highlights Shreya In her therapy sessions she often comes across partners requesting time away from their relationship whether it be for solo travel or staying in a hotel for the weekend Those who cannot afford separate bedrooms opt for creative ways to scratch the itch for personal spaceThis trend may be driven by a variety of factors including comfort health independence and even ease of scheduling Able is of the opinion that the shift towards separate bedrooms points to a growing focus on individual comfort and wellbeing in relationships While some may view separate beds as unconventional it could be a practical solution for many couples to enhance their overall relationshipHowever taking time for oneself can be a luxury for many Although nuclear families are becoming more prevalent and seen as the norm in modern living limited real estate in cities like Mumbai and Bangalore where the cost of living is high makes it difficult for many to afford a place with separate bedroomsWill you split the bills with meIf were being honest openly discussing the bills can help in keeping future conflicts at bay There was a time when there was awkwardness around discussing incomes and it was considered crass Now the tables have turnedBoth Able and Anuradha are of the opinion that discussing financial expectations and expenses is evolving as an important aspect of modernday relationships especially postpandemic Many singles are outrightly seeking financial stability first when looking for a partner Resultantly employment status has turned into a key factor that single Indians are consideringIn terms of splitting expenses some couples are deciding to split them evenly regardless of their individual income levels On the contrary some of them choose to divide expenses based on their incomes with the higher earner contributing more In Shreyarsquos professional experience of counseling potential suitors she observes that male partners are becoming open to accepting the contribution of their female partners They are no longer threatened by her earning capacityWill you get high with meThe new generation is relatively open about the consumption of recreational drugs previous relationships and even other habits be it smoking or drinking For some suitors marriage presents an opportunity to clean the slate and start afresh with healthier habits While some seek partners who are open to occasional moments of merrimentWhen Alaya 29 got hitched in a rather intimate engagement ceremony she and her boyfriend were stoned and giggling ldquoI do believe that its important to reveal lifestyle choices with someone you feel some level of connection with For me it is one of those aspects where I sought my partnerrsquos choices to coincide with minerdquoAble is of the belief that some Indians are open about their past experiences while others choose to keep them private That being said a growing number of individuals are having open and honest conversations about their past addictions smoking and drinking habits and lifestyle choices in 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