Talk about the future more and use that to shape how you treat each other in the present. 

If you don’t want to lose her forever, you are only postponing a difficult conversation. Sweeping things under a rug doesn’t resolve them

If she refuses, you will have your answer. Choosing to go out with you is her prerogative and you have to accept that

How do I change this about myself? If I can’t chat, I worry that I will always be alone

My worry is if I get engaged and change my mind, it will be devastating for her

Your pain is real and may take time to manage, but it may ultimately give way to something more meaningful.

An honest answer to this question may help you evaluate where things stand and what you are signing up for by continuing to be with this person

Transparency will always work in your favour because it will also avoid misunderstandings

Is this reason enough to end an otherwise loving relationship

Start by being kinder to yourself, reach out to a professional, and trust that time will allow you to see things differently

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