He tries to control how I spend my time

Illustration/Uday Mohite

I recently began seeing a guy I met via a dating app. We went out a few times and liked each other, after which we decided to give this relationship a try. Things have been going well for the past few months, but I am sometimes a little uncomfortable because he tries to control who I meet and how I spend my time when he isn't around. I have called him out on this, and he has apologised, saying that he knows it's a bad habit and wants to change. I appreciate him being honest, but I can't deny that it is frustrating to constantly have to tutor him about how to behave with a woman. If I don't see much change over the coming months, I don't think I want to be in this relationship. Am I being too hasty?
You aren't being hasty or unreasonable because this affects you on multiple levels. It is about comfort, and your mental health to a certain extent. If you feel as if he is making you uncomfortable, you should always call him out on it. If he is aware of his inadequacies and wants to change, it is only communication that can help this happen. As for wanting to give up on this relationship if you don't see any improvement, that depends entirely upon your expectations from this person and how you look at this being good or bad for you. All relationships require work, even the ones that seem effortless. Base your decision upon how you feel, as well as whether you're okay with this person not being in your life.

My best friend's girlfriend recently said something inappropriate, and my friend defended her, which made me angry. We haven't spoken since, and I don't know if I am being immature about this. Should I ask them both for an apology?
If something bothers you, and you want to make this friendship work, you should always initiate an open conversation about it.

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